There’s a lot to be said about not showing your ass all over the place. Most of us can agree, it’s definitely the way to go if you can help it.
But if it’s a choice between lying & pretending vs. showing my ass, then you can hopefully expect my ass…
If the choices are: a)pretending I’m one way in front of people, while being a different person elsewhere (lying to myself & others)… or, b)showing my ass, bearing my faults even as they show less-savory aspects of myself…
See, we’re all in progress, but are we actually IN progress?… We all have things to work on, but how am I supposed to keep growing if I pretend my past didn’t happen the way it did? I’d be delusional. If I tried to take credit for the positives in the lives of everyone I ever had contact with… while pretended I had little to do with their failures?
If I can’t call a spade a spade, who should ever want to play cards with me? If people couldn’t trust my word until I got caught in the reality of a situation, how trustworthy & honest would that make me? If no one could count on me to look at myself at least some of the time, how could they expect true answers from me on anything?
Who can lie to themselves & be honest to everyone else, or anyone else? When we believe a lie so hard… aren’t we opposed to even the possibility of what is true?
If I thought so little of myself or the people around me, I should just go be a politician – at least then, people should know what they’re getting in to.
I’m not saying it’s impossible for a person who’s in denial about their past role in the lives of their spouse & kids, etc, to, for instance, admit the stoplight is red or green. But I can only be as honest with you as I am with myself. I couldn’t tell you that stoplight was green if I had convinced myself it was red or yellow.
Every person is different, but the necessity of looking at one’s self is universal. I think I’m going to use the reminders that sparked this post to try to further examine my own self-evaluation. How do you take a good hard look at yourself?